Archive for Intimacy
What is the difference?
I have heard, “It’s just a cute way of saying that someone else is masturbating you”, and you’d be forgiven to think so considering all the various videos and written material out there.
As an Intimacy Wellness therapist and educator, I would like to show you a different way, a way that brings wholeness, healing, and flourishing.
As there are so many wonderful men reading on this site, I would like to address this post to you and how to make your lady really feel nourished and opened up in a new way.
It all boils down to intention, being fully present with meditative consciousness. You have there in front of you a divine being.
Now, she may not feel divine, in her mind she may not look divine, but you have the power to consciously activate the loving masculine in you in order to release the radiant feminine divine in her.
Want to know how?
I realised that I had a choice to ask for harder, faster, more pressure, more to the left, etc., or, I could choose to go deeper inside myself.
I felt myself sinking into a luscious state of relaxation, yet being carried into a floating inner concerto of fireworks …
The key with being in an orgasmic state is not to have a goal for climax, nor any expectations, other than unconditionally feeling pleasure.
For most my adult life I lived with expectations. Expectations such as, either, if you get physically too close to a man, he might ‘jump on you’. Or feeling responsible for his comfort and his pleasure. Or the expectations to climax so that his feelings are not hurt … the list goes on.
Not so with the conscious sacred intimacy lifestyle! Being a psychologist and therapist, to me this is powerfully healing.
© A.R.(“Geli”) Heimann, London 2014
How to Fake an Orgasm
This video instruction would be funny, if it wasn’t for the facts that studies show that over 75% of women admit to having faked it AT LEAST once.
Many women I have worked with in private consultations would love a sensual massage, if only it would not lead to sex. Many women feel like they really need loving and sensual touch desperately, but in order to get it, they have to pay with sex. I have heard women say, “The only time he touches me the way I need to be touched is when he wants sex!”
OK, Gentlemen, so what is the solution? How can you have a happy woman who actually craves for sex after a massage?
Most couples, especially if they have been together for a long time, are so busy with life. There are kids, bills have to be paid, jobs demanding, and just too many things require our constant attention. We rush around and not take the time necessary to create intimacy, to just deliberately and on purpose *being* with our loved one, feeling them and appreciating them.
So how do you keep this passion fresh, or rekindle the fire?