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What is the difference?
I have heard, “It’s just a cute way of saying that someone else is masturbating you”, and you’d be forgiven to think so considering all the various videos and written material out there.
As an Intimacy Wellness therapist and educator, I would like to show you a different way, a way that brings wholeness, healing, and flourishing.
As there are so many wonderful men reading on this site, I would like to address this post to you and how to make your lady really feel nourished and opened up in a new way.
It all boils down to intention, being fully present with meditative consciousness. You have there in front of you a divine being.
Now, she may not feel divine, in her mind she may not look divine, but you have the power to consciously activate the loving masculine in you in order to release the radiant feminine divine in her.
Want to know how?
A lot of us women were indoctrinated by society, media, culture, or whatsoever/whosoever that we are responsible for the pleasure of the men in our lives. OK, many younger women do not buy into that myth so much anymore, some even demand pleasure as their birthright, so to speak. However, on the whole, we women tend to be influenced to be (act) sexy and look sexy to get a hot guy’s attention. Then, when things don’t turn out the way we hoped it to be in the bedroom department, many of us either blame ourselves for not having been hot enough ourselves, not moaned and writhed like a porn actress, too fat, too whatever … or taken responsibility for his discomfort, not giving him all the sex he wants … the lists go on …
Coming of age in the 60’s, as it was in my case, was confusing to say the least. We had the flower power revolution, Woodstock, “Make Love not War”. We were the pioneers of a new generation, with sexual liberation beckoning. I loved Swinging London’s Carnaby Street at the time, it was exciting to be a child of that era, but then …
The video below is very powerful. As a woman, I have to admit that I was choking up and tears coming to my eyes. I was deeply touched and feel very honoured! All I can say is a very heartfelt “Thank You!”
“We need 4 hugs a day for survival.
We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance.
We need 12 hugs a day for growth”
—Virginia Satir, family therapist
– from the movie “Crash”
Recent studies show that there is a link between positive emotions and hugging. Well, that’s mildly said; actually
Hugging is the best antidepressant … it’s healing comforting and nourishing
Receive love first and love yourself before you can love others the way they need to be loved. A powerful scene from the movie!
It rather goes to show that it is not the circumstances that cause us to become who we are, but rather how we interpret the circumstances and live accordingly. In other words we can allow circumstances to use us, or we use circumstances. The choice is ours.
How to Fake an Orgasm
This video instruction would be funny, if it wasn’t for the facts that studies show that over 75% of women admit to having faked it AT LEAST once.
With you there is usually proof, it’s evident and noticeable. However, with the female anatomy being a mystery to many, it can be difficult for some of you guys to be certain that your partner actually really had one, unless you know what to look for and really know her well especially if you two have great communication skills.
An improved sex life makes such a difference in all areas of a couple and family life. In relationships, what happens when sex and intimacy are not working, you two aren’t allies in the daily challenges of life, or connected in the same way, so everything suffers in ways you may not even recognise it first. This feeling of connectedness which believe it or not comes from a satisfied intimate sex life, does positively affect even parenting skills and the overall well-being of life together. You’ll find that she’s less stressed out, taking life better.
So, allow me to share with you what you can do to be certain to get her to swoon, blissing out in a real orgasm … every time …. as well as what not to do …. read on.
Many women I have worked with in private consultations would love a sensual massage, if only it would not lead to sex. Many women feel like they really need loving and sensual touch desperately, but in order to get it, they have to pay with sex. I have heard women say, “The only time he touches me the way I need to be touched is when he wants sex!”
OK, Gentlemen, so what is the solution? How can you have a happy woman who actually craves for sex after a massage?