Sensual Resensitizing

We live in a society where we are assaulted by external stimuli to excite and arouse us.

Of course the more we rely on the external the less we are aware what’s going on the inside of us, the more we progressively become more numb to our own inner pleasure centres, and consequently reach for stronger and more addictive ways to have fun to toxic levels.

Naturally, the porn industry welcomes this; after all it means more revenue, so produce more to entice us with more titillating and hooking material. Neurochemically the brain response patterns are the same as with crack heroine.

Brain - Neural Pathways (source:

Neuro-scientists know that pornography addiction is a “chemical addiction” generating a reaction in the brain very similar to street drugs. The neurochemical release triggered by viewing pornography is so strong that it is also referred to as an “eroto-toxin” and the most powerful drug in history.

Cellular-memory groups and neural pathways are formed in the brain and body, thus making outside stimuli to access and activate them unnecessary. The brain is wired as such that images, feelings and information can be brought up simply by using your imagination.

Pornographic images stored in the brain cellular-memory groups and neural pathways can permeate the whole mind-body network. Pornographic images can pop up at the most inappropriate time, especially during intimate time with the spouse.

Then there is sexual fetishism, or erotic fetishism (also called paraphilia) which relies on any physical thing (traditionally, an inanimate object) to achieve sexual arousal or satisfaction. When a person becomes dependent on these devices as well as pain to derive pleasure from, typically there is little sensitivity left to enjoy intimate times with just two bodies intertwined and each spouse deriving pleasure out of satisfying each other.

This mini-article is not intended to go deeper into these subjects, hence it’s only outlined briefly above.

Thankfully, though, for those who desire to detox and resensitize themselves and their partner to actually derive pleasure from experiencing heightened sensations and feelings from touch and loving presence, they can embark on a most powerful and delightful bliss adventure path together.

Part of what I teach is retraining the brain and re-patterning habits. For example, during and relaxation exercise, focus on non-genital togetherness. Learn and understand the various different erogenous zones both on yourself and on your partner. Take time to prepare bodies, such as giving a feather massage, or a finger ‘rain-drop’ massage, or a massage with essential oils, etc. Explore all the senses.

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Journey Of Intimacy™ – Geli Heimann BSc (Hons), MSc, is a NLP Practitioner, Relationship Psychologist and Psychosexual Educator, based on Positive Psychology, Mind Technologies and Christ-Centred Spirituality – an Invitation to Hope, Healing, Growth, Joy and Bliss.

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