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Typically, we are there for others, busy giving, busy excelling, busy with all the things we have on our never ending to-do list …. it feels like a frivolous luxury to just spend time on ourselves in a nurturing and self pampering way.
This article is all about a big subject: breasts: accepting them for what they are rather than what they are not, loving them, and giving them a nurturing self massage with essential oils, which due to their therapeutic and organic pureness, not only nourish the body, but also elevate the healing electro-magnetic energy frequencies so needful for our breasts.
All the photos in this article I took of myself, of my own hands and breasts, so you know that I am practising myself what I am sharing with you!
You might be tempted to react negatively, such as, nothing really matters to him, he just doesn’t care, it’s all just a big joke to him …. But that, precisely, is the masculine gift to you, if you are available to receive it!
The feminine laughs with pleasure and delight, the true feminine is full of radiance, energy and joy.
Humour, on the other hand is different from enjoyment. To the masculine, ultimately everything is transient and unnecessary, never mind how serious or real a situation may seem. His humour is birthed from the ability to see things from a different perspective. Being able not to take himself and/or a situation that seriously, the ability to see the unnecessary nature of things is a freedom with which the true masculine expresses his gift of humour.
For the feminine, sexual availability can thus also mean to be available to his humour, being able to receive the spacious freedom of his humour.
So, consciously open yourself to receive his humour. Step out of being emotionally stuck in a gripe, open your radiance and laugh from your heart, giggle in a carefree way. It is really important for him to see you happy.
Most of us know how to support each other, at least we think we do, and how to be good cheerleaders for each other. Somewhere along the line, however, we realise that no matter however much personal growth we have gone through, there is a gap between the potential we feel and how life is really occurring. There is often a glass ceiling that we feel in our own consciousness, and patterns still keep showing up such as insecurity.
Common anxieties keep coming up in partnerships, such as fearing that the other is more visible or better, or feeling that one is not adding enough value to the partnership, or other limiting believes. We tend to look at the partnership through a lens in terms of, ‘there’s got to be a winner or loser in this’, rather than being a co-laboratory team, and that becomes even more visible when couples divorce.
So, how do we navigate the hazards and joy of living with an open heart? Will jadedness from past disappointments and hurt prevent us to be really real? Is there an answer?
You’ve spent the last hour shaving your legs, getting your hair just right to compliment your glowingly beautiful make-up and walk into the living room to find him in his old blue-jeans slouched on the sofa engrossed and entranced in the latest game on the screen in front of him with not the slightest interest going anywhere fast!
What is your first reaction?