Conscious Loving – The “90 Day Challenge” for Men – what is it all about?

If you are not happy in your intimate relationship, you’re not happy. End of story!

It does not matter how much love a man has for his children, and how much he accomplishes in his life and career, I believe deep in their heart, everyone wants to have that experience of aliveness of a passionate marriage.

We’ve spent too many years learning about “I, me and mine” and not enough about “we” – how do WE successfully create relationships.

The issue is that most of us were never taught the basics!

If you want to learn new skills, practices and secrets you can apply to your relationship, then read on …

Some of us run a business, or shape our bodies and try to shape our kids. We tend to focus most of our energy there simply because it’s safer and we feel we have control. However, if you take charge of yourself, and commit to emotional fitness training; and if you understand the dynamics of men and women in a relationship, you can make changes in minutes that might have baffled you for years.

For decades, I have been working behind the scenes in highly confidential counselling situations with men, especially with leaders who find it difficult to confide these matters to peers, and if they do talk, they’ll usually get another man’s perspective.

‘What does a woman want?’ ‘How can I make her happy?’ ‘How can I make her really satisfied that she craves for more?’ ‘How does she trust me more?’

I believe the best way is to hear those answers from a woman, a woman who understands men and compassionately hears their deep heart cry to be loved and be romanced themselves. A woman, who not only has walked the experience, plus learnt from years of clients issues and then studied relationship psychology at university.

The result is the “90 Days Challenge”, a three months foundational intervention coaching program uniquely tailored to each individual and couple. I must say, though it is a very tough coaching program for men, but delivered with love, honour and sensitivity!

It is a really tough program only meant for champions, those who want results and not excuses. If you come to me with the attitude, “I tried it all, I tried the best and nothing is working, what can you offer to me that I don’t know already?”, then that program is not for you!

When you are willing to stop nursing the blaming or ‘understanding the past’ game, and take radical steps to find help from someone who uses strategic intervention strengths methods to get results, plus gives you the tools to keep you moving forward, then we can work together to see a shift and breakthrough in your relationship and your sexual intimacy.

This is a program for champions, who are committed to playing at 100% and not drop the ball, who are not willing to hide behind excuses, their own limiting beliefs, or cultural norms.

The reason why so many high achievers virtually devote all their time to their career and work is, because it is an area they have control over and that gives them significance. However, your mission field is first and foremost your partner.

Here’s a brief glimpse of what your challenge will look like:

1. For the next 90 days give her 100%. Fill her up so much that she wants to give to you in turn (but do not expect that from her). You won’t know what can happen until you give completely and totally! The next 90 days give her attention like No-one and nothing in her life has ever given her. Give her attention, attention, attention, attention, praise, focus, caring and love! Fill her up like she’s never been filled up before! At times you will have to be a Sherlock Holmes and play detective to dig deep into her heart. You can do it!

 

2. Take a hard look at what she really needs, not what you think she needs. Be committed to play at a 100% and give her up to level ‘10’ in all her needs areas, especially in her top core needs, daily (!). Lasting success does not happen overnight, but you can get the ball rolling into the right direction overnight! She will test you (!!) – don’t wimp out with excuses, blaming-shifting or spiritual /cultural ‘explanations’, just work harder! Be honest. If you goof up, pick yourself up, next time will be better! I’m there to support you as a coach, with empathy and warmth, but I will also push you to be your very best for yourself and your beloved!

 

3. Find out what it takes for her to really feel loved. Write down 10 things that she tells you, that if you did them, she’d feel loved. She may have different love rules to you. If you say, “I do all this stuff for her, she should feel loved …”, chances are that her love rules are totally different to yours!

 

 

4. Your woman needs to be lit up, those 90 days should be the greatest 90 days of her life, as never will a man have given her more attention and focus with caring and love!

 

 

 

(Tip, some women do not know the difference between needs and wants.

Wants sometimes disguise themselves as genuine unmet needs OR a whim to test. A woman loses respect if her man panders to all of her wants like a direction-less wet rag without inner core integrity. There is a fine balance you will need to learn! If a man on the other hand understands her really well, with his own ego bruises out of the way, and rises up in his core-masculinity to serve her with what she really needs, he’ll become her hero! So understand the differences and distinctions as pertaining specifically to your wife. You need to know her so very well for that!! Actually there is no sweeter love shown than a man really knowing his woman. To be known and loved unconditionally is very special!)

So, when are ready to take on that challenge, to work with those unique tools I will give you, to take your communication and intimate sexual communion with your partner to the next level, you will find a fresh passion and love blossoming in your relationship like you only ever dreamt about! I have seen men with tears of joy streaming down their faces to finally experience what it really means to be fulfilled and happily!