A Romantic Sexy Playful “I Love You!”

Are you up for playful ways to say, “I Love You!” to your partner? There are some of us who can’t hear those magic three words often enough to feel warm and loved. However, others smile and say, “show me that you love me, don’t just give me words!”

We’re all different, and how we experience and feel love is really very unique to each one of us. They key is to explore what it really means for our partner to feel and experience our love to them … and likewise receive this wonderful gift back.

Knowing what to do is one thing, remembering is another. So here is a playful way to make this whole endevour more fun.

No matter how old we are, hopefully there is still a kid inside all of us that wants to play and have fun surprises! And this works a treat because you get to enjoy all you love to do and receive, plus romancing the one you love in the way they’d appreciate it most.

Ready?

OK, both of you get a piece of paper, each and write down ten ways you would feel loved most, ten new sexual things you’d like to try, and ten sweet or fun romantic things you know both of you would enjoy.

Once both of you completed your lists, swap them and go through and approve or disapprove each other’s suggestions, except the list of ten ways each of you would feel loved most.

Try not to have a knee-jerk reaction regarding any items from the new sexual things list. Why not give it a whirl and try out, at least once. Have fun with it. If it does not work for you then drop it from your “will-do-that-one-again” items.

Re your list of feel-most-loved items, you may discover even more of your wishes, wants, and deep desires during coaching sessions with me (sometimes we are unaware of what we really want and need ….). The trick is really getting to know yourself well and acknowledge that it’s ok to have desires, even those unspoken ones, and give yourself permission to ask for them. It’s ok and beautiful to communicate these to your lover.

Likewise, we want that sweet one of ours to really feel loved and spoilt, rather than just hit and miss assume that what we do or say is what they actually love best.

Back to our lists of suggested and desired items. You can either scribble each on a small piece of paper, fold them and pop them into a bowl for your lucky dip, or you can be a bit more creative.

Here’s what I did:

First, get a large sheet of coloured craft paper, different coloured ribbons, scissors, and a gold pen.

As you can see I decided to create heart shaped mini cards. I suggest cookie cutters (just make sure they are clean and not greasy), as it makes it easier to trace a heart shape with a pen rather than draw it free-hand.

Cut out the amount of hearts you need to cover all your items. Next, I made a tiny incision at the pointy bit of the heart so that the ribbon would not slip off.

The different colour ribbons distinguish between your and your lover’s “feel-most-loved” items. One of the colour ribbons is for the neutral fun or love-to-experience / do items.
(I suggest you have a good amount of blank mini cards on the side with a pen, so that you can always add some more yummy, luscious items when you happen to think of more).

At least once a week one of you picks a mini-card and does whatever it says. The joy is that both of you feel safe, as you know that it’s something you’re happy to try or give your partner extra loving, but it’s also deliciously unpredictable as well.

Once you’ve done it, pop the mini card back into the bowl for another time. Enjoy your glorious treats!