“Why Can’t a Woman Be More Like a Man?”

Men’s job description tends to be: cut the pain off, solve the problem and move forward. However, women take something little and make it as big as possible because they feel every nuance of it all; whereas the masculine takes big stuff and pretends it’s as little as possible.

Woman can use just a hint of a voice, a look, a non-verbal cue …

For example, if you ask a man for help and he says ‘No!’ he means ‘No!’.To him it means, “Thanks, I can handle this!” However, if you ask a woman, and she says ‘No’ it might mean ‘Yes’. Now, if as a man you go, “Oh, she said ‘No’” and walk off, she thinks you don’t care about her, and you’re not making really an effort to really understand her.

As a man, part of your job is to become a Sherlock Holmes. The job is to be a detective, women always leave clues. They get upset thinking, any woman would have figured that out, I need someone to understand me, someone who gets me … (!!)

Women tend understand each other and assume that a man would understand likewise.

When a woman has had a hard day and is stressed out, she needs a man to just be there for her, listen intently and feel her deeply with his heart without attempting to fix the situation (which may not be a problem to her in any case). Rather than talking, fixing, or defending yourself because you’re feeling attacked by her, learn the language of empathy, and just communicate to her though a tender look being fully present, “Baby, I can feel your pain, I am not going to try and fix you, you can rant and rave and pour it all out. My chest and arms are big enough, my love for you can handle it, lean on me, I am here for you! I may not understand fully, but that’s ok, I hear your heart!”

A man’s world is based on logic, women do not have this to interfere with their experience of life.

A woman can feel something and it makes sense to her even if there is no reason for it.

What a man has to understand is, he does not have to make her happy; he needs to make a difference. “I deeply and passionately love you, no matter what!” makes the difference!

Women speak in riddles. Men think, “When you speak in riddles, you mean what you say”. If anything a man can learn, that women rarely mean what they are saying, but they know that they really mean what they are saying because they speak in a riddle.

Listen out for the deeper frequency of her heart, become like Sherlock Holmes, because if you do, you become her hero.

Nothing lights her up more than a man who will stick with it and find her unique truth at that precise moment.

Most men love a challenge, love to break through. If you were as committed in figuring out your woman as you are committed in figuring out electronic devices, imagine what your life would be like.

The other thing I would like to remind you is, you have the power to open up your own woman into love and trust like no other human being here on this earth! Not by demanding or exerting authority of her, that only causes her to close up more, but to unconditionally love her heart open into wholeness.

Believe me, this is worth the challenge!