This lingering kissing is more advanced and must never be rushed. It is deliciously relaxing and intoxicating.

There is a very important rule that has to do with your attitude and intention:

The loving paradox of giving and receiving, as opposed to ‘grabbing’, taking, and being a performance master.

Let me explain and give you some luscious scrumptious tips that will change your kissing pleasure forever …..

Some men have moved from the “come here woman, I want you now, and I know you want me” attitude to, “I can get her to moan and squirm; I can make her have multiple whatever’s; I know how to handle a woman that she comes back begging ….”

On the other hand, there are some women who seem to have a need to tease and please to get a reaction for him to want her; or just out-and-out serve/please him because she feels it’s her duty to him.

None of that should ever be part of your intimacy with your spouse. What we teach here at the inStrengths Inner Chamber is a lifestyle of respectful, tender loving intimacy and not crude sex (whichever pretty way that might be dressed up as …).

Delicious sexual ecstasy is woven into it, and the effects of high-level abandoned and surrendered lovemaking linger on, and enrich a couple’s life making it vibrant. You’re on a constant life-breath of sumptuous ecstatic living increasingly becoming more deeply in love as the days go by.

So, what has all this got to do with kissing? Everything! All animals copulate, but only humans kiss, and have the capacity to kiss exchanging the divine essence of life, spirit …. breath.

A meaningful kiss allows ones whole loving self to be poured into the other, and with vulnerable surrender receive the loved one’s heart at the same time (yes, men too).

Meaningful kissing opens up the avenue to get to know oneself and the other; it entwines knowledge with deep emotions and spirit.

Now, let’s go to the skills bit:

If you’re new to this, let me give you a practical tip.

Imagine a beautiful warm summers day and you have a most luscious, juicy, scrumptious, mouth-watering, ripe peach in your hands (exchange peach for any other fruit if you prefer). Now, imagine that you’re going to savour this peach and not hastily gobble it up. You’re going to relish and take pleasure in really savouring this peach as you slowly take it to your mouth. Inhale the unique fruity fragrance and let your lips softly brush over the tiny hairs. Cup your mouth over the peach and with a soft broad tongue experience the skin of the peach before opening it. Experience the exquisite pleasure of gently sucking in the juices and the flavours….. get the idea?

Now, let me ask you a question: was your focus on giving the peach pleasure or was your focus on intensely enjoying the peach?

Here comes the paradox, when you deeply and genuinely enjoy your spouse, like savouring that peach, you’ll give pleasure to him or her. It’s like, ‘who’s the one giving or receiving?’ … somehow gets all muddled up in this delectable swirl.

OK here we go:

 The one experienced in the supreme art of kissing never ever zooms in on the lips straight away. You gently build sensory awareness. Even if everything inside of you *screams* for the touch of the lips, hold back and build greater tumescence by getting the rest of the body, or at least the rest of the face involved. The key is to awaken the nerve cells all around to avoid just a localised experience. You can do that by gently sniffing each other. It awakens your senses to different skin fragrances depending on the hormonal and emotional state. Also, the gentle air pulses that emanate as you breathe on the the your spouse’s face will start to awaken anticipatory nerve cells, plus tuning you two into a synchronised breathing pattern.

 Build intimacy anticipation by kissing all around your spouse’s face with soft, baby butterfly kisses and use your hands to caress the face, hair or body, and nuzzle their neckline.

 Use your nose to nuzzle and your lips to caress your loved one.

 Tease your partner by tracing the outline of his/her lips with the tip of your tongue.

 Now put your heart and body into a slow kiss alternating the pressure from gentle to deep with mouth slightly open. Gently touch their neckline and earlobes with your fingertips as you’re kissing. Then move your finger tips up to stroke the back of their head.

 Take your lover’s (I trust your spouse is still your lover!!) bottom lip between yours and suck gently. Make some sounds of pleasure.

 Slowly lick your partner’s teeth with your tongue and increase your breathing to short rapid breaths.

 Wrap your lips around your loved-one’s tongue and gently suck passionately alternating your speed from slow to quick.

 Explore the inside of your lover’s mouth with your tongue by running it in small and large circles.

 Gently run your tongue along the inside of their upper lip

 Dart your tongue in and out of your lover’s mouth rapidly and then slowly as if you were having intercourse. Remember to use your entire body with sensitivity and tenderness, and make all those wonderful sounds of love.

 Use hot or cold liquids to create new kissing sensibilities.

Live life with Love and Passion,

Geli

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Journey Of Intimacy™ – Geli Heimann BSc (Hons), MSc, is a NLP Practitioner, Relationship Psychologist, Business Psychologist and Psychosexual Educator, based on Positive Psychology, Mind Technologies and Christ-Centred Spirituality – an Invitation to Hope, Healing, Growth, Joy and Bliss.

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